Foodie PenPals

June 29th, 2012 | Posted by Sonja in Uncategorized - (2 Comments)

Yep – this post actually isn’t wedding related

I have recently signed up to the Foodie Penpal swap over at Rock Salt, organised by Carol Anne. 

If you are a food blogger or just love food, I suggest you go and check out her blog.  In short, the idea is that at the beginning of each month you get matched up to one partner (who also loves food) and then you send a nice little foodie surprise parcel to your partner whilst in turn you will receive a parcel from yet another food lover. The idea is to include some unusual or local foods or something homemade for example.

I was very excited when my parcel from Meryl over at Community Gardening for Idiots arrived.

It was a bit spooky because when I opened the parcel and read Meryl’s note it was a little as if she had been spying on me.  I’m a bit of a skipper when it comes to eating breakfast in the morning.  I usually just can’t get out of bed in time to straighten my hair AND have breakfast.

And you know what Meryl sent me??? A Dorset Breakfast!!!! Wanna see?

There is some Dorset fruity porridge (for the microwave so even I should be able to make some time for it), some dorset tea, some lovely organic wild berry tea, and some hunza apricots (never had those but apparently you have to soak them overnight and then heat them up until they go all syrupy which I will try this weekend!) And that’s not all!! There is also a bar of Green and Blacks milk chocolate which didn’t last very long at all and some baking cups for some weekend baking!

I’m now thinking dorset/apricots breakfast muffins…I wonder if I could come up with a recipe… I will let you know.

Thank you so much for my lovely parcel Meryl! You may have just started a new breakfast trend here!

In turn my partner was Jess and I sent her a parcel of “All Things Yorkshire” but I will let her show you herself.  Do pop over to visit her at House Tales.

I’m already looking forward to next month’s food parcel swap!!

Marriage v Gay Marriage

June 16th, 2012 | Posted by Sonja in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

Whilst I really wanted to write about my wedding dress (which was delivered on Thursday), there has been something far more important on my mind this week. It has taken me almost a week to write this post as, I’m nearly ashamed to say, I had to go and do some research on the topic to make sure I wasn’t talking utter rubbish.

I guess it’s just a sign that, whilst I take it for granted to be able to get married pretty much wherever I want, to the man I love and want to spend the rest of my life with; for some this has been, and continues to be, not the case.

Now you may wonder what the hell is going on. There is me talking about that double wedding of me and my brother to our respective partners. The fact is that whilst countries such as Spain, Canada, Argentina, the Netherlands, Portugal, South Africa, Sweden and Belgium have already legalised marriages between same-sex couple, in some places (including Germany and the UK) this is not yet the case.

Back in March, the UK Government started a 12 week consultation on whether to allow same-sex marriages. On the back of the Government’s consultation, the Church of England has responded on Monday of this week, and created a bit of a storm.

It has warned that proposals by the Government to legalise gay marriages by 2015, would “alter the intrinsic nature of marriage as the union of a man and a woman, as enshrined in human institutions throughout history”.

What all this means is that whilst “civil partnerships” were introduced in the UK back in 2005 to give same-sex couples the same legal rights as married couples, the law does not allow such unions to be referred to as marriages. This may seem like a small matter but believe me, it really is not.

Irrespective of the definition of marriage (‘the formal union of a man and a woman…’), and the definition of gay marriage (‘the legally recognised union between partners of the same sex…’), let’s just take this back to basics for a moment.

What all four of us are doing is making a commitment to our partners to spend the rest of our lives with each other, whatever the future may bring. My brother and his partner (who by the way have been a couple since 1996) will not have given this any less careful thought than my partner and I have. It means exactly the same to them as it does to us. All we want is to celebrate this decision with our friends and families and just be treated the same…

Whilst I’m allowed to say I’m getting married, my brother has to refer to the fact that he is “entering into a civil partnership”.

So, dear Church of England…

On the 18th August 2012 I will be getting married. My brother and his partner will also be getting married. All four of us will spend many happy years in our respective marriages. Whilst my brother will not have a piece of paper confirming his ‘marriage’ (yet), we will shout from the rooftops and tell anyone who will listen!

The Government’s consultation is now closed and I will be keeping a very close eye on the outcome.

On a final note, whilst I can even see how some church members could be offended by potentially (as they call it) having marriage redefined, my best advice would be that if you don’t agree with same-sex marriages, you simply do not enter into one. As Christians at Pride point out, some Christians are gay…get over it! Which brings me to the point that there is a World Pride march in London on the 7 July 2012.
If you happen to be in London, please go and show your support! (And if anyone is happening to travel on the day from Leeds please get in touch!)

(The dress didn’t fit by they way so I’m off back to the shops…)

The calm before the storm

June 9th, 2012 | Posted by Sonja in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

It’s gone awfully quiet here.  I hope it’s not the calm before the storm but everything all of a sudden just seems to run too smoothly if you know what I mean.

More surprise parcels have arrived and I should probably start to get them ready for their next trip over to Germany.

The dress has been ordered and will be delivered on Thursday (now that might be a day that ends in tears to be honest…) and the other half has also started to narrow down his search for something to wear.

There have been some minor problems – like not being sure about the venue for the afternoon.  There are only four hours to gap though so if we have to we will just celebrate at my brother’s place before heading across to the party venue for the evening.

My brother and his partner in the meantime have confirmed that they are now having new wedding bands.  They had been wearing rings for a number of years but weren’t sure if they wanted to go and get some new wedding bands.  In addition, everything that has to be sourced is, as far as possible, being sourced locally within the area in which they live rather than falling back on some of the big chains.

It’s just so happens that there is a tiny jewellery workshop across the road from them.  They now had a couple of consultations and they are actually making their own wedding bands!  Well to a certain point anyway and then the experts take over – I guess they wanted to make sure they would actually slip on on the day.  I think it’s a really lovely touch and makes their wedding band so much more special.  Can’t wait to see them!