The dreaded dress

July 4th, 2012 | Posted by Sonja in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

Buying a big flouncy wedding dress is probably one of the most exciting parts of getting married for most brides.  For me the search for just “something” to wear has been quite stressful.

Getting married together with my gay brother meant that, even though I’m going to be the only bride, I don’t really want to be “the” bride if that makes sense. I could just picture it.  We all come out of the Registry Office and someone may walk past and say “Oh look a wedding”.  But it’s two weddings!! It’s just not that obvious for most maybe. I don’t really want to steal the show and it was all starting to get quite headachy. The fact that it is now about 6 or 7 weeks from my wedding day doesn’t really help either.

I had seen a lovely 50s style wedding dress that looked just amazing with a bright pink petticoat underneath the ivory skirt of the dress.  Unfortunately the dress doesn’t fit (apparently I’m off their size chart but that’s another story) so it had to go back – amazing or not.  It was something that said “let’s have fun” rather than being a formal wedding dress – so the search continues.

Anyway at least I know what sort of style I want now.

Running out of ideas, options, and time, I made an appointment in a really lovely Bridal House in town. There’s another big one across the street but I seriously would have been scared of walking in there.

When I called to make the appointment, the first question was when the wedding was going to be.  August I said very matter of fact.  And yes, of course I meant this year!!  Do some people really plan that far ahead?  I don’t think I could cope!  Their concern was that they may not be able to order any of the dresses in on time as some of them apparently take 28 weeks to arrive and then they are very likely to need at least some small alterations.  Oh dear – this is going to go well.

Anyway, I spent my lunch hour with a lovely lady called Lorraine, trying on a number of dresses. Lorraine agreed that given the boys colour choices (I think we are now at red and blue and blue and lime green although that may well be subject to change…) I would definitely need something with a bit of sparkle to make sure I would actually get noticed. And guess what? I saw this lovely little number just in that 50s style I want so much.  At this point I’m quite giddy with excitement and jumping up and down in my underwear and can hear myself ask to try it on…and taaadaaaahhhhh…

I looked like a #@*%*?! fairy! Seriously! All I needed were some sparkly little wings. I think even the very professional Lorraine agreed that it looked a little frumpy on me and that it would be best to get me out of it – quickly.  Hilarious. Best lunch hour I ever had!  I’m sure on someone else with the right figure it could look absolutely stunning but on me all the proportions were just wrong. Seriously wrong.

Anyway, as I was taking my fairy outfit off I did spot something in the corner.  Kind of golden and sparkly and lacy. (At this point Lorraine is nodding approvingly). And this one is actually going to be the one.  It was one of those moments where the flipping thing just sat beautifully and doesn’t even need much alteration.

It is rather long though and even has a bit of a trailing thing at the back – what do you call those again??

So I have made a complete U-turn on the dress. How did that happen? Sorry guys!!  Anyway I already told my brother and he thinks it’s actually really quite nice that I have decided to go for a full bridal gown. As we keep saying to each other “It’s your day too” and I think he just didn’t want me to miss out on anything. Bless. Gotta love him really.

He’s now feverishly making plans on how to get the husband to be out of the house and to the Registry office without seeing the dress beforehand. At this rate we may even end up spending the night before the wedding away from each other.  All very “proper” don’t you think?

It’s going ahead…or is it?

July 3rd, 2012 | Posted by Sonja in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

Wohoo!  I (or should I say my brother) finally had confirmation that our appointment now stands!  Good job too with people travelling from the UK and as far away as Australia.  It would have been a little bit embarrassing to tell them all that after all the hype something had gone wrong somewhere.  Well I guess there would have still been at least one wedding – just not ours…

However, as you may have gathered by now, nothing has actually ever been straight forward with this marriage.

Firstly, my brother had a bill from the courts in Germany in respect of the exemption from the No Impediment to Marriage certificate.  Hang on I said. What do you mean by exemption?? We did provide that. Had it posted all the way from Australia, then translated and now we need some kind of exemption?? Apparently it turns out that these certificates aren’t really used anymore and what you need instead is some kind of exemption, which cost us another 50 Euros (on top of the fee from the Australian authorities, express international postage and translation – lovely!)

Apparently my brother was very close to having a rather huge argument with them about it but didn’t want to risk me getting married for the sake of 50 Euros so he paid up.  Phew….

He then also posted me the originals of the confirmation of our appointment and you would never guess it!  Somehow the German authorities managed to get the countries mixed up and all the paperwork refers to us living in Australia… I know it’s all very international with me being German and my partner being Australian and us living in the UK but it’s not really that difficult is it?  I’m just hoping this isn’t going to cause any bigger problems.

So another sharp breath in and another phone call to my brother (as the lady at the Registry Office is now actually just ignoring my emails and exclusively speaks to my brother for some reason).  Anyway she’s very sorry (or so he tells me) and they have amended their details accordingly.  Dear lord!!

My poor brother by now must be kicking himself for ever agreeing to deal with matters on our behalf.  Good job he’s a rather relaxed chap!

Keep your fingers crossed for us! Who knows what else might happen in the next 6 weeks.